Throughout our lives we will encounter our fair share of people; some will have positive affects on us and others will not. As we get older, we start to realize how important it is to surround ourselves with people who truly care about and want the best for us. However, sometimes, this can be easier said than done.
We want the company of those who want to share our success, happiness and special moments with us. We also want the support of these people during times of hardship. Ask yourself, are there people in your life who celebrate your highs with you, and comfort you during your lows?
If so, keep them close, appreciate them, and never let them go. If not, it’s time to do some reevaluating about who to share your time with. If someone is consistently bringing negative and unhealthy energy in your life it is time to let them go.
There can be a slew of reasons why someone is bringing toxic vibes to the table, regardless, your time is too precious to constantly deal with someone else’s problems. Being around people who demonstrate negative attitudes and behaviors is toxic to your mental well being. It truly has an affect on you, and in turn, will start bringing you down.
If you’re not sure who could be bringing you down… Below are the 7 types of toxic people you do not need in your life.
- 1. Self-Deprecation
Have you ever been around the type of person that just cannot see the good in themselves? It can be incredibly difficult to handle. Of course, you want to be there for a friend in any time of need but when it gets to the point where all they do is put themselves down, it’s exhausting.
Every encounter involves them searching for reassurance, and no matter how much you give them, it’s never enough. It puts an extremely heavy burden on you mentally. Being around this type of attitude is depressing and you no longer have fun with this person; you just comfort them.
- 2. Negative Mindset.
Negative minds have negative things to say about anything and everything. You want to surround yourself with positive people and vibes. You give out the energy that you receive; so if you’re constantly being fed negative energy, that is what you will start to give out too.
If all you’re hearing when you have a conversation is how terrible everything is or going to be, you need to get out. Life is too precious to waste wallowing in the bad instead of appreciating all the great things the world has to offer. Redirect your attention to the positive. If this person wants to focus on the bad then let them, but don’t be a part of it.
- 3. Manipulative Personality.
Manipulative individuals will offer “advice” that is meant to persuade you to their own benefit even if it may not be the best move for you to make. The people in your life should offer genuine and nonjudgmental guidance or advice.
Any person who puts your mental well-being or happiness in the backseat is someone to get away from. No friend should ever want to intentionally make you uncomfortable just to benefit themselves.
- 4. Selfish Intentions.
Anyone who ignores your needs, wants and opinions is someone showing some serious red flags. If they care about you, they will compromise with you, but once they start ignoring any kind of input you’re giving, you may want to reconsider the relationship.
- 5. One-Upper.
Does everything in this relationship feel like a competition all of a sudden? If you’re happy, they’re happier; if you’re excited about a new opportunity, they have an even more exciting one.
You should never have to compete to celebrate a happy moment in your life. People who are good friends should be excited to celebrate your success; they should not need to undermine you.
- 6. Social Climber.
We all want to fit in and be liked but when a person starts prioritizing popularity over friendship is when the relationship starts to be questioned.
Your life is about quality not quantity and you don’t need the baggage of a person who is constantly focusing on being cool rather than being true.
- 7. Jealousy.
We all get jealous sometimes, it’s normal. However, when the jealousy becomes extreme that is when problems arise. If a friend is so wrapped up in jealousy it’s because they feel like they’re not fulfilling their own goals, and are now taking it out on you.
Don’t let them project their own insecurities onto you, it’s their problem not yours.